Why the feeling of control is the main deception of the brain
A sense of control is the foundation of a healthy psyche. It helps to act, learn and not give up. But in the midst of chance (slots, markets, sports bets), the same function turns against us: the brain "draws" causal relationships, as if our actions change the probability of winning. This is the main deception: the feeling of influence ≠ the actual influence. Below is how the illusion is born, how it steals money and time, and what to do to regain real control.
1) Where does the sense of control come from
The brain is a prediction machine. We constantly build hypotheses and compare expectations with the result. Coincided → a surge of dopamine → "I am involved."
Selection and agency. When you can choose a slot, the moment of "back," the size of the bet, the brain assigns its own role to the result.
"Almost-winning." Close coincidences are perceived as "almost succeeded on my merit," strengthening the desire to continue.
Series and templates. Natural clusters in chance seem to be patterns ("warmed up," "went stripe").
Rituals and environmental control. "Happy" amounts, time, buttons create regularity - and mask randomness.
Conclusion: the brain loves stories more than statistics. Where there is no causality, he comes up with it.
2) How the illusion of control breaks decisions
Escalating rates. "I feel the moment" → an increase in beta without reason.
Lengthening sessions. "A little more - the squeeze" → ignoring the timer and plan.
Dogon and superrisks. "Slot must give" → a series of impulse deposits.
Rule blurring. "Today's exception" → systematic violations of stop loss/limits.
Shifting targets. Entertainment turns into a "mission to get your back," increasing stress and the likelihood of a breakdown.
3) "Red flags" of imaginary control (self-test, yes/no)
1. Raised the rate because "there is a stream/chuika."
2. Changed strategy on the fly without a recorded condition.
3. Extended the session after "almost winning."
4. You believe that the time of day/specific slot "gives better."
5. At least once struck the stop loss "a little bit."
2 + "yes" - a sense of control already drives decisions, not rules.
4) Real control against imaginary: what is the difference
Imaginary control = belief that the result depends on me (timing, rituals).
Real control = control of what is really subject to: rate size, time, session frequency, entry/exit rules.
The criterion is simple: does my step change the mathematical probability? If not, it's about feeling, not about control.
5) Five pillars of "real control"
1. Pre-decision: money/time limits and rate change conditions are fixed before the start.
2. Protocol: "blind" scenario of bets/steps for 30-60 minutes, no changes within the session.
3. Timer: signal = stop. No "last five minutes."
4. Wednesday: turn off unnecessary sounds/animations, remove the "temptations" of replenishment in one click.
5. Report: at the end - 60 seconds "plan/fact" + one adjustment for the future (out of session).
6) Practices that nullify imaginary controls
A) "12-Step Blind Protocol"
Make a list of 12 items (bet, number of spins/rounds). In the session, go from left to right. Any deviation = end of session.
B) "Double Envelope"
Bankroll is divided into "game" and "locked." Inside the session, only the first is available. Transfer from "locked" is possible only the next day.
C) Implementation Intentions
If I caught the thought "the slot must give," then I get up and set a timer for 2 minutes.
If there are two "almost wins" in a row, then a pause and completion by timer.
D) "Minute debriff"
Three lines: duration, compliance with stop loss/timer, which I will improve in the rules. A photo of a note to yourself is enough.
7) Rule templates (can be copied)
Money and time
BR_mesyatsa ≤ 2% of free income.
Session _ limit = 5-10% of BR.
Stop-loss = 1 × limit; Take-profit = 1–2×.
2-4 sessions a week for 30-60 minutes. A timer is required.
Decisions in session
Ban on raising the rate "by feeling."
Changes - only under a pre-prescribed condition (for example, BR growth by + 20%).
"Almost-winning" does not affect behavior.
Escalation and pauses
2 violations of the rules in a row → 72 hours of time-out and tightening the limits for the next month by 25-50%.
8) Exposing typical thoughts
"I press on time" → the result is set to RNG; animation - cosmetics.
"After a series of empty ones, it will definitely give" → independent events do not "compensate" for the past.
"This slot/hour is mine" → pattern without statistics = myth.
"Today you can exclude" → exceptions are planned in advance: it has reached the stop loss/timer → autopause.
9) Mini-experiments to make the brain believe
Coin × 50. Try to "catch the moment" - the proportion of eagles/tails will not change.
Two sessions in a row. 1) "how I feel"; 2) strictly according to the protocol. Compare stress and overspending - blind mode wins.
10) "after disruption" plan
1. Exit immediately and enable time-out for 72 hours.
2. Record a thought trigger ("felt control," "streak").
3. The next month - minus 25-50% of the limits.
4. Add one rule to the minutes (e.g. no intra-session rate increase).
5. Report to the "responsibility partner" in one message.
A sense of control is a useful illusion for learning and motivation, but in a random environment it turns into an expensive trap. The release is simple: stop "controlling" the outcome and start managing what is subject to - time, rate, frequency and rules. Imaginary control gives emotion. Real - saves money, nerves and discipline.
