How to learn how to manage excitement, and not be controlled by it
Introduction: Excitement is an engine, but you have to steer
Excitement itself is not the enemy: it is an emotion of interest and expectation. The problem begins when the emotion commands decisions: "another spin," "now I will definitely win back," "I will raise the rate - it's coming." Managing excitement is not about suppressing feelings, but creating frames and skills that keep the game in the entertainment zone.
1) How momentum works (and why decisions accelerate)
Dopamine "bait": the brain overestimates "almost winning" and fresh victories.
Cognitive distortions: "hot hand," illusion of control, "home money."
Fatigue = fewer brakes: criticality drops at night and after stress.
Conclusion: manage not outcomes, but the context and rhythm of decisions.
2) Default borders: three safety circuits
1. Money: separate "entertainment" budget (1-3% of income), daily/weekly deposit and loss limits. Increase - only after "cooling" 24-72 hours.
2. Time: Session plan 45-60 minutes, Reality Check reminder every 30-60 minutes.
3. Exit: withdrawal rule (fix 50-80% of the winnings) and prohibition of cancellation until tomorrow.
3) Here-and-now techniques (reduce momentum in 2-10 minutes)
Breathing 4-4-4 (3 minutes): inhale 4 - pause 4 - exhale 4.
Urge surfing (10 minutes): observe the "thrust" as a wave: it grows → the plateau → subsides. At this time - no bets.
Technique 10-10-10: how will the solution turn out in 10 minutes/10 hours/10 days?
5-4-3-2-1 grounding: Name 5 things you see; 4 - touch; 3 - hear; 2 - you smell; 1 - taste.
Two foot questions: "Has at least one of my limits already worked?" and "Am I ready to stop now?"
4) Anti-traps: what to do instead of automatic reactions
After winning, I want to raise the bet → Lower the bet by a step and apply for withdrawal (50-80%).
After the loss, it pulls to "recapture" the → Time-out 24 hours, an entry in the diary of one page (± total, before/after mood).
"It seems that the slot is about to give" → Remember about RTP/volatility, fix the range of rates for this session.
Hands stretch to cancel the output → The rule is "any cancellation - only the day after bedtime."
5) Digital environment: making the right steps easy, the wrong steps difficult
Disable personalized ads and the "gambling" theme on platforms; install ad blocker.
Unsubscribe from promo and filters in the mail ("bonus," "freespins," "jackpot").
Delete saved cards/auto-completion, turn on "do not disturb" during sleep hours.
Clean phone screen: breathing, notes, habit tracker, support contacts instead of trigger applications.
6) Self-control rituals (15-20 minutes a day)
Sleep 7-8 hours and "without screens" 60 minutes before bedtime - less impulses.
Movement for 20 minutes (walking/exercise) - reduces anxiety.
Diary 90 seconds: date, duration, ± total, before/after mood, which helped/interfered.
Week-long retrospective: reversals of findings? night sessions? compliance with limits?
7) Language without self-deception: microscripts
"I manage frames, not outcomes."- "Money decisions are tomorrow after sleep."
- "The conclusion is my victory, I do not cancel."
- "Losing is a signal to pause, not to catch up."
- "I breathe for ten minutes - then I'll decide."
8) Conversation with a loved one (by script)
9) Action plan: 24 hours/7 days/30 days
24 hours (stop inertia)
1. Stop button: "do not disturb," close the tabs, glass of water.
2. 10 minutes: breathing/urge surfing/grounding.
3. Timeout 24-72 hours at the operator.
4. Message to the support person by script.
5. One-page diary and early sleep.
7 days (return rhythm)
Zero night sessions; 5 × 20 minutes of movement.
Checking limits and Reality Check; output rule is activated.
Cleaning digital triggers (fluffs, promo, auto payments).
2-3 support contacts (friend/group/consultant).
30 days (make sustainable)
"Default" limits and timers, no exceptions.
Weekly retrospective and threshold adjustment.
One "substitute" habit: sports/training/creativity 2 × a week.
Public (for myself/mentor) promise "do not cancel withdrawal until tomorrow."
10) Checklists
Before the session
- Goal: "have fun X minutes," loss limit, profit cap
- The/Reality Check timer is on
- Rate range fixed
- I am ready to stop when any limit is triggered
Pro tempore
- Pause every 45-60 minutes
- No "dogons" after losing
- No increase in the limit "on emotions"
Later
- Win → 50-80% withdrawal request (no cancellation until tomorrow)
- 90 second diary entry
- Water, short walk/stretch
Environment and protection
- Promo/pooches disabled; is an ad blocker
- Auto Payments/Saved Cards Removed
- "Quiet hours" on the device are enabled
11) Progress metrics (mark once a week)
% Scheduled Sessions (with Timer)- % of sessions completed under the/profit cap limit
- Zero canceled pins (yes/no)
- Night sessions: ↓/→/↑
- Thrust level 0-10 (weekly average)
- Sleep ≥7 h: __/7 days
12) When more help is needed
Limits are regularly violated, cancellations of conclusions are repeated.
The game interferes with sleep/work/relationships, debts/secrecy grow.
Thoughts of self-harm or severe anxiety/depression arise.
Contact a consultant/hotline - easier before.
Frequent errors (and substitutions)
"Today, without limits - once you can." → Limits are always put on like a seat belt.
"I'll fight back if I increase the rate" → This is chasing; pause 24 hours + journal entry.
"Since I won, you can cancel the conclusion" → Conclusion - victory; changes only tomorrow.
"I am strong, I can cope without pauses →" Strength is the ability to stop in time.
Excitement management is a system of small solutions: a framework of money and time, a clear exit plan, a clean digital environment, short techniques against momentum and regular support. Start today with two steps - turn on the limits and timer - add 4-4-4 breathing and the "withdraw without cancellation until tomorrow" rule. So excitement will become your energy, not your boss.